The neglected side yard…
Sometimes you catch it in your peripheral vision. You might be scurrying between appointments or checking off your to-do list when you glimpse a scraggly bush.
You don’t look too long or hard. You race ahead, pretending that you really didn’t see it.
It’s easy to do.
There are a hundred other things to distract you. Facebook. Your kids. Making money. But ultimately, you know it’s there.
The neglected side yard. That place where you have tossed your creative urges. The fleeting thought that maybe you’ll write a book? The desire to pick up a paint brush and just see what happens?
It’s not like you really do it on purpose. After all, you are busy! There are priorities!
And yet, those neglected creative urgings can’t be dismissed no matter how hard we try, or how much we look the other way.
We feel them as a jealousy when we read a blog of someone who has tended to their side yard and stepped out. Or a clench in the gut when we walk through a gallery and see someone singing their soul out on the canvas.
So what is one to do?
Go sit in the side yard.
You heard me. Go open the gate, walk in, and sit. Just notice what’s there. The first step is simply seeing what has been left behind. It takes a touch of courage. We make the gate stick if we try opening it with self-judgment. Try self-compassion instead, which lubricates the hinges.
Go in and simply acknowledge what’s there. And make a promise that if nothing else, you will SEE the side yard. When you have energy, you may pour a little water on the wilting rose. Or sprinkle a few seeds on the dirt. Breathe. Keep visiting. And one day it won’t be the guilty glance from your peripheral vision, but a place of beauty you come to relax and renew…
*** If you are ready to at least sit in your side yard, and writing is the creative urge that is hiding there, consider some companionship as you explore. On Feb. 11, we begin a 5-week telecourse journey to help you gently begin planting and tending your writing seeds. Let’s see what grows. Early bird pricing ends February 4. Details below and here: http://www.carolynscarborough.com/winterspark/
To ponder, journal or share on blog comments … What is in YOUR neglected creative side yard? What helps you to open the gate? Please comment here on the website.
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Story Circle Women’s Writing Conference
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April 17, 2016
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Aging: A Journey of Hope
Saturday, June 25, 2016
As we age, new fears arise. Explore with us through writing and other creative exercises what it means to “Free yourself to thrive and come fully alive in the second half of life.” Details here: http://eremos.org/workshops/
Carolyn, This is absolutely lovely and much needed and appreciated! Your encouragement, coaching and guidance are some of the tools that help me “glimpse” into the neglected side yard. Also, enjoying and taking in others’ writings, paintings, music and other creative endeavors helps. Love, Didi
Thanks for sharing Didi. Such a joy to see the beauty blooming in YOUR side yard!